How to get over your EX

Getting over a relationship is no doubt one of the worst human experiences a person can endure, especially when you both are love struck with each other. It’s tempting to file your ex away in a distant corner of your mind where you don’t have to think about them, but that attitude may be doing more harm than good. Taking the time to actually think about your split may help you heal from the pain quicker. There’s a saying that goes “when one door closes, another opens” but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. Breaking up is never really easy to do. But for some, the process of getting over a failed relationship can stay a little longer than for others. This brings about the loaded question; why can it be so difficult to get over an ex?

• Cry hard: its allowed to cry don’t deny yourself that. If you need to cry it out, do so. Or better still go to the gym, get a punching Bag and punch out your anger.

• Cut off contacts: never you try to be friends with your ex after your break up. Don’t hang out with his buddies, don’t text him; don’t call him because the best way to get over someone is to initiate a clear boundary. Defriend him on Facebook, UN -follow him on twitter and stop going to same saloon with his sisters.

• Spend time with your friends: now that he’s out of your life or she’s out of your life, (this applies to exs of both gender) spend quality times with your friends. Catch up with the people you may have neglected when you were madly in love.

• Don’t analyse and regret: never have you analysed the play-by –play of your relationship. Don’t get stuck in the “would haves” and “should haves” stop looking for reasons and explanations and learn to accept it the way it is.

• Stay single for a while: enjoy yourself by staying single for a while. The rebound relationship is rarely successful even if your mind is telling you to bounce back with someone new, choose to remain single until the edges of bitterness, anger and sadness soften.

By Maimuna Bagudu