Friday, 24 February 2017

Clear Signs It’s the Right Time to Meet the Parents

If you are not ready to walk down the aisle with your partner, do not bother introducing them to your parents just for the sake of doing so. It is advisable to do it when you are both ready. The right time can be determined by how accommodating your parents are, if they are not as strict then go right ahead and plan something casual. Just remember to be sure that your partner is comfortable with the idea as well. It may not be a big deal on your part, but it could be a big deal to your partner as meeting parents is a sure way to prove how committed you are to your relationship. If your parents are more formal in the sense that a dinner is called for, then perhaps you should take more time to prepare your partner beforehand so he or she knows what to expect. Either way, all parties have to be ready for the meeting if you want it to be successful.

Some parents make it very clear that they are only interested in meeting their Children’s partners only when they have decided that they want to marry them. Some parents are just that way and you cannot fault them for being so stock in their traditional ways. If you have parents like these, then it is better to play by their rules and only introduce your partner to them when things are very serious between you too. It is advisable to get more intimate so that everyone has the chance to properly get to know one another, but of course, that is the right way to go. In any case, here are 7 signs that it is probably time to meet the folks.

1 The Love is Mutual. You will know that it’s the right time to meet the parents once you both can attest that the love is mutual. There is no point in putting everyone through the stress of getting to know one another if your relationship is not going to last. These days we see people introduce different partners every now and then to their family members.  Once you have decided that you are going to be joining with your partner indefinitely, it is probably the right moment to make the introduction to your parents.

2 Your partner has met your friends. If your partner has hung out with your friends on more than one occasion, then it is safe to say that he or she may be ready to meet the folks. There is less pressure when it comes to meeting a group of friends and if your partner passes with flying colours, then it’s the right time to step up your game by introducing him or her to your parents.

3 Your partner has met your other family members. Whether your partner has met other family members by chance or intentionally, once he or she has met an extended family member, it is probably time to meet the parents. For example, if you and your boyfriend run into your aunt at the supermarket and you introduced them so as not to be rude, remember that people talk and if your family is anything like such, get ready for many talks. News will spread like wildfire that your aunt met your boyfriend before your parents did.

Even though you encountered them by chance, it can lead to massive family drama, so take the bull by the horns and set up a lunch date with your parents sooner rather than later. The same can be said if you introduce your girlfriend to your sister over dinner.  What makes you think your sister is not going to report everything to your mum? Expectations will be set, pre-judgments will be made and before you know it, your parents will be harping on you to introduce them to your special someone.

4 You talk about the future. Once you start thinking in terms of “us” instead of me” then you know that the timing is right. If you see yourself being with your partner for a long time, then the next course of action is to make him or her part of your life. That means meeting the people who created you. This step will certainly make your partner happy as it serves as validation that you are taking things to the next level.

5 The idea isn’t intimidating to you. If the idea of your partner meeting your folks does not scare you out, then what are you waiting for? This is a good sign as it indicates that you are comfortable with the two family meeting and becoming one by way of marriage. Ensure that your partner feels the same way and not to push him or her if they are not ready.

6 You are proud of your partner. It is difficult to introduce your parents to your slacker boyfriend than it is to introduce them to someone who has his acts together. If you are proud of who you are with, it is inevitable that you would want everyone to know about his or her accomplishments. You want the people you care about to see just why you are so in love with this person.

7 Everyone is ready. I suppose if you cannot figure out when the “right time” is, then just take it easy and only set up a meeting once everyone is mentally ready. Speak to your parents about this special someone and gauge their reaction when you suggest a meeting. Do the same with your partner. Once you think that everyone is comfortable enough to take the next step, you will know that it is the perfect time. Meeting the parents for the first time is a huge step whether you think so or not. You will be surprised at how many relationships go awry just because the initial meeting with immediate family members did not go as planned.

As much as you love your partner, what your family thinks also carries weight, especially if you are close to them. Never underestimate a parent’s scrutiny when determining if their child is with the right person or not. Parents have a bizarre sixth sense when it comes to stuff like that, so take your time and do not rush it. You will know when the time is right.

Know When to Call Your Gynecologist

A gynaecologist is a doctor who focuses on women’s reproductive health. They check your body to make sure that your reproductive system is healthy and they help you avoid problems in the future. Visiting a gynaecologist means you are taking responsibility for your body. Many women think that pregnancy is the number one reason that prompts them to see a gynaecologist, however there are many other issues that women may face that need to be checked by their gynaecologist.
Women today are shy to take a trip to the gynaecologist because a visit to the gynaecologist can be uncomfortable and can include certain processes and procedures which many women would prefer to avoid, and there are some things about your personal life you may not want to discuss with anybody. Believe it or not anytime you visit a gynaecologist, you should feel free to discuss your personal life, when you are open to them, they will be able to identify and help solve your problem.

Visiting a gynaecologist is something every woman should do on a regular basis. It is recommended that girls should begin to see a gynaecologist from the age of 13. Early visit to a gynaecologist will help you understand your body and how to care for it; let the doctor find a problem early so that they can treat it and also explain what a normal vaginal discharge should look like.

Irregular Period – Skipping your period once in a while can be normal but when your period skips frequently, it becomes very important for you to see the gynaecologist. It could be an indication that you have a problem with your reproductive system. Occasional missing of period can be linked to emotional stress, eating disorders, excessive weight loss or gain, breastfeeding and some kind of other illness, too much traveling, use of unsuitable birth control medication and illegal drugs, hormonal imbalance too can trigger this problem. When you miss you period frequently, do see your gynaecologist to find out the exact cause and provide medical assistance immediately.

Urinary Issues – Frequent trip to the bathroom, more than normal should prompt you to visit your gynaecologist. It can be a sign of a urinary tract infection, a strong urge and persistent feelings of urinating, passing out frequent but small amount of urine, pain or burning sensation during urination, when this is noticed, visit your gynaecologist, because early diagnosis can save your life.

Abnormal Vaginal Discharge – It is common for women to discover slight vaginal discharge especially between menstrual cycles. It is part of the body process of cleaning the vagina and cervix. Vaginal discharge increases when you are ovulating, breastfeeding or sexually aroused; all these are normal in women, but when you notice changes in colour, odour and quantity of vaginal discharge, see a gynaecologist.

Unusual Heavy Bleeding – Bleeding is considered heavy when you change sanitary pad after every two ; within 24 hours, it suddenly becomes painful and prolonged. When this happens, a visit to the gynaecologist will do you good.

Lumps in the Breast – you must not ignore lumps in your breast or underarm area. They can be sign of breast cancer, the most common form of cancer among women. If the lumps last for about two to three weeks, see a gynaecologist.

As a woman, it is advisable to do monthly breast self-examination. During the examination, look and feel for any visible lumps, swelling, redness, rashes and any discharge from the nipples. In addition, a healthcare provider should do a complete breast examination every three years.

Vagina Odour - Strong vagina odour is a very common problem that prompts a woman to visit her gynaecologist. Slight vagina odour is normal, but a strong odour like a fishy smell may indicate a problem. It can be very embarrassing. It can be caused by bacteria growth, yeast infections, poor hygiene, hormonal changes and sexually transmitted diseases. Vaginal odour can be treated and managed once diagnosed by a gynaecologist.

Excessive Sweating – Excessive sweating as well as hot flashes can be a sign of premenopause, the period when a woman moves closer to menopause; other accompanying signs and systems may include irregular periods, vagina dryness, mood swings and sleep disturbances. So when you are at the age of 40 and you experience sweating without any reasonable trigger, see your gynaecologist. It can be when you are awake or asleep. Seeing a gynaecologist will help find out the main cause and the best treatment.
By: Mercy Kukah

What Men Want But Are Afraid To Ask For

There are many things that men want their women to do for them or something they will like to know, but for some reason, they just cannot bring themselves to ask. Women are getting it all wrong when they think that men are not supposed to ask for affection or complain to you when you as their spouse don’t do what they want. Is your man craving for your attention but don’t want to ask you? And you don’t even know what he wants? These few things are some of what he wants, all you need to do is just to read on and apply them in your relationships, and believe it that you will set his head spinning in love.

He wants his girlfriend/wife to know he loves her

He can be awkward and also his ego might not let him say what is on his mind. Words may fail him. But he likes to think you know how much he loves you. He does. You can see it in his attitude, feel it in his silences, his touch and even the way he looks at you. All what he requires of you is to prove to him that you know he is crazy about you.

He wants his lady to take the lead

He may be a natural leader, but that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t like you to take the lead. Surprise him, especially in bed. He will be under your spell. You can also decide to take him out on a date and all the expense to be on you. It doesn’t have to be always him all the time.

He wants respect

Men don’t like to be disrespected no matter what, even if they are wrong. He is very sensitive, and doesn’t like it when you belittle him, even as a joke. He wants respect, not mocking.  He may be bold, but he likes that you respect him for what he is, flaws included! When he is trying to correct you, just keep shut if you don’t want a fight.

He wants to be admired

He enjoys being flattered. He really does. Just look at him with admiration and he will be happy. When he dresses up in a nice shirt and trouser, just go close to him and say “wow baby you really look good”. A guy likes nothing more than making his girlfriend/wife admire him and praises him a lot. Just be rest assured that he will be all yours.

He wants to be with you

Some men want to be with their spouses every minute of the day when they are both not busy. He likes it when the two of you just sit down cuddling, watching the television or even talking. Don’t take it as he is being over protective or doesn’t want you to be with other people. He just loves your company.

He wants to receive encouragement

He will never admit it, especially not in front of his friends, but your man has doubts. When he feels broken and might want to give up, just be there with words of encouragement. Let him know that he can do it and he will come out successfully. He will sometimes wake up in the middle of the night, just looking out at the ceiling with dark thoughts. In these times of anxiety, what helps him most is your support.

He wants to feel appreciated

Because he sometimes has doubts, he doesn’t take your love for granted, even if he may seem to at times. When he does a little thing for you, maybe cleans the house or even cooks before you get home, appreciate it. He needs your “thank you”, your sweet words and how you also express your gratitude matters. You can appreciate him by even buying a gift for him.

He wants an independent girlfriend/wife

If you are always waiting for him to call or don’t have any life outside of him, your man might end up finding you a little boring. He likes that his girlfriend/wife has projects of her own (he’s even proud of it!) and that she can take care of herself. Of course, he likes to protect her too, but he doesn’t want to cut her wings off. He likes a lady who has a life of her own, not someone who stops breathing when he is not around. Show him that you can also make it without depending solely on him.

He wants to feel desired

By you and by others, sometimes! Although he will never admit it especially to you, he likes it when he gets other women’s attention. But hey, don’t get jealous but rather feel happy that you have a cute man as yours. Don’t be afraid to send him flirty messages as this will make him feel happy.

He wants to show he has feelings too

He wants to be able to cry without worrying that you will take advantage of this flaw to manipulate him and call him a baby. Showing his sensitive side is not always easy and he sure doesn’t want to be taken for a wimp. Just give him a shoulder to cry on, or better still you can cry with him too. This will make him feel that you are also sharing in his pain.

He wants to relax

For him, weekends are made to relax. And relaxing doesn’t mean throwing a dinner party, going to the movies, cleaning up the house or running errands. Relaxing means doing nothing. No planning allowed. Just to stay at home and enjoy a quality time with you.

He wants to talk

Your man is not afraid of discussions. Pick a subject that he likes and he will turn into a real chatterbox. Don’t hesitate to tell him how your day was, what you did and who you saw. But in the process don’t forget to ask him how his day went too. You can even decide to talk about how growing up was like and the foolish things you did when you were little.

He wants to stay the way he is

No, he doesn’t want to change, unless he decides so. If you try to turn him into someone he’s not, don’t be surprised to see him flip out. He might even decide to leave you if you insist on telling him to stop doing things he loves doing.

He wants to feel he can protect you

He feels right at ease when he is protecting you. Although he likes the fact that you are an independent woman, he wants to know he can also protect you. And he will do just about anything for that. He wants to know he can stand up for you and take you out of a mess when the situation requires it. But that doesn’t guarantee you getting yourself into trouble with the thought that “I have a wrestler as a boyfriend”.

He wants you to show affection to him in public

Every man becomes a king when his lady hooks her hand into his elbow as they walk or stand in public. As much as they would like it, it is also much difficult for them to ask. So now that you know, remember to slip your hand into his when the both of you are taking a stroll or going out to the shopping mall. You can even decide to do what he never thought you will, that is giving him a kiss in public. It is not a bad idea. Don’t you think?