Thursday, 21 September 2017

Reasons you should spend money on experiences, NOT things

It is true, that when we’re young time may seem endless especially during holidays. Then life comes and kicks our butt a bit; and we learn that time is not our friend.  It also teaches us that accumulating more worldly possessions doesn’t fulfil anything either.

Samuel L. Jackson once said “The use of travelling is to regulate imagination by reality, and instead of thinking how things could be, you get to see them as they are.” I agree completely because I have developed a strong understanding of why travelling is so vital to self-development. If you’re someone who cherishes new experiences and you have an open mind to trying out new things you never thought of pursuing; such as rock climbing, roller coaster rides, or taking a ride to a small town to have lunch outdoors or any other thing that brings excitement with lasting memories, then you are doing the right thing.   It matters not even if the trip was bad, it is still an adventure to remember. 

On the other hand, if you are a shopaholic, that is someone who prefers to buy material things; you should know that joy they bring is transient; and addictive.  New purchases lead to new expectations because as soon as we get used to a new possession, we look for an even better one. For example, we get excited when we buy a new wig, a new material, new pair of shoes, even a new car but after a while we lose the enthusiasm and all the fun also disappears. Why does that happen? The newness wears off. As this fade we look for something else to keep our happiness fully charged, which never works. The new shoes you buy may feel good at the moment, but it never really lasts. We want happiness to be ‘on continuum’ and if possible a forever thing but the truth is material stuff remains separate from you although some may think their identity is connected to their possessions.  Meanwhile it’s actually your experiences that are really part of you. We need to put our resources towards other things that enable us to experience life. This leads us to reason number one which is:

Leaving your comfort zone
It may seem like such a big and difficult decision. But saying goodbye to your comfort zone is required for you to live.  If you don’t take a risk, you will never really discover your true self. If it’s only ever about doing what is safe and easy how will you ever know the things that make your heart beat faster and the things that tick you off? Travelling will put you in uncomfortable situations and encourage you to talk with different people from completely different cultures and lifestyles. For example, communicating with someone who doesn’t understand your native language, it may be frustrating but also interesting.

Gain Experiences
If you love horses, painting, writing, or sailing or swimming, start taking lessons now and experience will keep gifting you. It opens you up to a new world and opportunities like friends, cultures, and learning more about yourself. Wherever you choose to go doesn’t need to be fancy. Engage in a hobby you love like taking a hiking trip, or maybe visiting a museum. Experiences open you up to different perspectives which can even help you grow as a person and every experience you gain will leave a lasting impact for years to come.

You don’t know tomorrow
Nobody knows how long forever is; humans are not guaranteed to live forever. Travelling is usually postponed with the intentions of building up a life, or until you get your dream job; but who knows how long that will be? Some even say they are waiting for retirement before they begin to see the world. Without injecting too much personal opinion I would say that’s just the views of the society. It is your choice to live as you wish. The world is safer without regrets. If you choose to buy experiences over external objects it will transform you in so many ways.

Comparisons don’t matter
We don’t compare experiences in the same way that we compare things. The things we buy are always compared to one another. There is always a competition to get either the best, most expensive, or the most popular. But with trips and vacations there is little or no room for comparison, which makes them more enjoyable.

To fulfill the purpose of life
Sharing your stories with others and telling them how enjoyable every moment was from planning all the way through the memories you made is something everyone should have the experience of. We are the sum total of our experiences. As Eleanor Roosevelt so put it: “The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience it, to experience it to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences.” 

Have a life. Live life. Experience life

By: Aishat .B

Wednesday, 20 September 2017

Six Telling Signs that She Will Never Stop Loving You

Getting the attention of your dream girl can be quite tough, especially when you have been chasing her for so long and she keeps posting. When she eventually says yes to you, your joy will know no bounds. But she might have given you some conditions such as not to toy with her emotions, don’t cheat, don’t beat her and never break her heart among others. Once a lady loves, she loves so hard that her primary concern will be how to make you happy. Are you married or in a relationship, and you are wondering if she will wake up one day and stop loving you? Then this article is a must read for you.

She’s been with you for a long time.
It’s not very common that a woman who has spent a good number of years with you to just wake up and decide she’s done with the marriage or relationship. If you have been together for a very long time, chances are, your wife or partner is not going anywhere any time soon. In fact, be assured that her love for you will keep growing daily, when you treat her right. Family and comfort are EVERYTHING for women who enjoy relationships.

She goes above and beyond.
She’s constantly showering you with affection just to show you how much she cares. She wants to be treated like a princess; more than that, she wants to treat you like royalty, too.

You are part of her circle.
Her mom adores you; you have her best friend’s stamp of approval. If you are right for her, it will show in ALL of her relationships: giving her more incentive to stick around. So, if you don’t want to lose the woman of your dream, treat her like a queen, show her off to the whole world and you will be the happiest man on earth.
She’s vocal about her feelings and desires.
Some women aren’t shy to show how they feel about their men, irrespective of where they are or who is around them. However, don’t make the mistake of taking advantage of her feelings for you, because you will not like her reaction. If she tells you that she wants you to be serious with her, then, be serious.
She’s not afraid to tell you the truth.
She tells you when you are getting on her nerves, when she’s feeling sad, and the reason she gets jealous once in a while. She tells you about her childhood, her hopes and dreams, and her thoughts on the things that matter in the world. She only opens up with the ones she knows are going to stick around — and she’s going to stay, too.
Her love is unconditional.
She lets you know how much she loves you every single day, and yes, “forever” is part of her vocabulary. When you get in fights — including the really big, ugly ones — she still reminds you that you are, and always will be, the one.

What other affirmation do you need? Once you notice the above-mentioned signs and many more, know that she is ready to stay with you.

By Pupwaya Timothy Dibal 

The Safest Countries to Visit in 2017

For many people, the world feels like a much more dangerous place now than it was a few decades ago. But travel is hugely important not just for business and financial purposes, but for vacation and leisure purposes as well. In the World Economic Forum’s Travel and Tourism Competitiveness Report of 2017, countries are ranked according to their safety and security. The good news is that “safe” and “secure” doesn’t have to mean boring. Check out below for the 10 top-ranked countries for safety and security, and the attractions in each of them to make your stay interesting.

10. Qatar
Qatar is one of the top ranked countries in the Middle East, both in terms of safety and in the overall ranking. There is a wide variety to do here too. You could wander through Souq Waquif, visit Sheikh Faisal’s private museum at Al Samriya, or jump over the man-made island, Peal-Qatar.

9. Rwanda
In ninth place is Rwanda. Although the country doesn’t score well in all indicators (the terrorism index and rate of homicide are not as low as most others on the list), police response is reliable, the business cost of terrorism is low and so are the business costs of crime and violence. It is also home to some incredible natural wonders. You could visit a gorilla park on one side of the country and giraffes and lions on the other.

8. Switzerland
Switzerland landed in eighth place for the safest city, and has also done well in the broader report, ranking as the 10th overall destination. Although their name is synonymous with neutrality, Switzerland offers anything but a bland experience. You could ski the Alps, bungee jump, or just stare at the grandeur of the Matterhorn.

7. Norway
In seventh place is Norway. For a nature-focused visit, see the famous fjords or take a trip along one of the 18 national tourist routes. For more of a cultural experience, sip on craft beers and take a walk on the roof of the Oslo Opera House.
6. Singapore
Singapore comes out well-rounded in its safety scores: the cost of business crime and violence is quite low (seventh place), police reliability is high (fourth place) and the homicide rate is third lowest in the world. You could visit museums, indulge in shopping, or wander alongside the colourful Peranakan houses.
5. Hong Kong
Hong Kong has one of the lowest incidences of terrorism in the world. On your visit, you could visit the Pak Tai Temple on Cheung Chau Island, or escape the throb of the city by lounging on Repulse Bay Beach.

4. Oman
Though Oman’s next-door-neighbour, Yemen, has suffered devastating conflict in the last couple of years, Oman is the fourth safest city in the world, and is tied with a few other countries for having the lowest incidence of terrorism globally. On your visit here, you should check out the sloping sand dunes and turquoise fjords, if you are a nature lover; and those in search of culture shouldn’t miss the markets in Nizwa or the fortresses.

3. Iceland
Iceland’s popularity with international travellers has boomed in the last several years. So, knowing it’s also the third safest destination is only a bonus. If you choose to travel to this country, keep a lookout for the Aurora Borealis, soak in the Blue Lagoon or enjoy glaciers, waterfalls and whale-watching.

2. United Arab Emirates
The United Arab Emirates are on the up-and-up, having hosted 14.4 million international visitors in 2015. They have plenty of reasons for travellers to visit: in addition to being the second safest destination in the world, there is an abundance of excellent dining and shopping, plus beaching in the Persian Gulf!
1. Finland
And the winner is… Finland! Tourist attractions in Finland include the Northern Lights, the Midnight Sun Film Festival in Sodankyla, Lapland (if the sun stays up all night, you might as well, too). It is a terrific place to spend a holiday.

By Akaomachi B

Nigerian Governors and Housewives: A Comparative Analysis

It is quite obvious that not many people have taken their time to consider the fact that governing a state in Nigeria has been unduly reduced to one of the most simplified jobs which does not necessarily require an average intelligence, or any special qualities to perform. Or, put another way: the overly simplistic interpretation most Nigerian governors have given their jobs has so much reduced it to such a very unchallenging assignment that it no longer requires any special preparation or endowment to execute. In fact, any God damn fellow can just walk in there and encumber the ground for another four years, and that would be all.

But my hope is that those who will emerge as governors in 2019 will hasten to realize that a growing number of Nigerians are beginning to develop a high critical taste and greater degree of discernment in their assessment of governance, and have lost significant patience for the old, perfunctory and uncreative way of doing things. Every indicator shows that more and more Nigerians are no longer content to merely watch their rulers grope and wallow in confusion and directionlessness in the face of humongous problems requiring urgent intervention, and indeed, may go a step further with proactive actions to demand accountability from them. This realization ought to motivate our future governors to hasten to excuse themselves from any post election bacchanals, and devote quality time to fully appreciate the enormity of the very high office they are about to occupy and the high cost, this time around, of dismal outing.
Now, let’s look at what it presently means to be a state governor in Nigeria. Indeed, shorn of all the glamour, pomp and noisy convoys, what can we really say is the difference between what house wives do for their families and what state governors do for their respective states in Nigeria? The answer, if I am asked, should be obvious; but I am very reluctant to answer it with just one word: None!  Certainly, I do not want to start my day with placard-wielding house wives thronging the frontage of my small house, protesting the grave insult of an unfair comparison. And so, I’ll be fair. But first, let’s look at one clear similarity: a husband labours, earns some money, invites his wife and gives her the “monthly house keep allocations” for the family. Nigeria also takes its God-given oil, markets it, and then State Governors are invited to Abuja, to cart away their own “Federation monthly allocations” for the upkeep of their respective states. So, is there any difference?

Yes, I think there still is. At least, we now have wives who are no longer comfortable with being just housewives, but go out to work hard to help diversify the sources of income for their families, unlike the governors whose only understanding of governance is to sit at home and eagerly await the monthly allocation from the federation account, a fraction of which they spend to make some impressions here and there, and then call a press conference or buy spaces in national newspapers to showcase their “wonderful performances.” They execute N2,000.00 work and advertise it for deceit at N1million! It is really a great tragedy. Now, tell me, why should any governor with any brains in his skull and the slightest hint of self-esteem, expect a serious person to clap or cheer him for just renovating (or even, in most cases, merely repainting) few school buildings and filling a couple of potholes on few roads? Even if he builds brand new roads, new schools and hospitals, has he done anything extraordinary for cheering? Shouldn’t all those form part of his routine duty? What special intelligence or endowment is required to do that?

By the way, what is he supposed to do with the monthly billions he carts away from Abuja? Hide them in his bedroom, and then begin to use them to gallivant about town, to increase his number of girlfriends and leisure spots? Now, what extraordinary talent is required to pay salaries to workers (out of the money duly packaged and given to a full grown adult) or clean up a few streets? Even a kindergarten pupil can do better than that! Please, let’s stop turning ourselves into objects of derision before sensible and civilized people over there.

Now, assuming oil was not flowing beneath us, and so no monthly allocations or “excess crude earnings” to share, what then would be the work of a state governor in a federal state like Nigeria? Or, are we to take it that no one would have agreed to become a governor if such a situation existed? Whatever happened to great ideas and insights, and inspiring well thought-out policies for the creation of job opportunities and wealth with which talented administrators are distinguished? Why has Nigeria reduced governance to mere routine assignments like provision of power, portable water, roads, fertilizers, medicines and exercise books for pupils? So, if one pays his children’s school fees or fuels his car or feeds his family, he should be applauded for ‘great achievements’. Do our so called leaders ever bother to listen to the vision statements of their colleagues in other climes outside Nigeria?

Well, what more can I say? I was making some points the other day and somebody I consider an illiterate sycophant looked at me straight in the face and bellowed: “You should be grateful that there are some governors who are even willing to spend some bits of the monthly federation allocation to fill potholes and repair school buildings. What about those who don’t bother to do anything, though they also receive the monthly federation allocation? What are you going to do about that? So, just praise those who agree to do something.” Can you beat that? Does anyone see what our country has become?

Maybe Nigeria would become better if the governors are immediately replaced with housewives (even the uneducated, rustic ones). Indeed, most husbands have little or nothing to complain about how their wives manage the “monthly up-keep allocations” in their homes. They return virtually every day grateful that their homes are in good hands, and that virtually everything that ought to be done had been done. The housewives not only buy into their husbands’ visions and aspirations for the prosperity of the homes, they also generate their own ideas (which any husband spurns to his own hurt), and would readily contribute their own lot to ensure the realization of those ideas. But what the majority of our governors do is to sabotage our hopes and aspirations with their boundless greed and callousness. They can be likened to irresponsible housewives who alienate themselves from their husbands’ good dreams and ensure they never come to fruition. Instead of investing the “monthly allocations” to move the home forward, irresponsible housewives stash them away to prosecute their selfish agendas. This is the situation in many states in Nigeria today.

It is sad that most Nigerians do not think too highly of their governors but regularly dismiss them as wayward fellows who are incapable of thinking beyond how to secure their personal comforts and leisure. Some of them appear so blank and unprepared that one is left wondering whether they were just woken up from sleep and told to become governors. One searches in vain for the slightest hint that many of those governors ever lose any sleep because of the enormous problems plaguing their states; men without the presence of mind to appreciate the enormity and even sacredness of the high responsibility placed on their shoulders. Honestly, majority of them were wretched and poor but now successful merchants.

All these must change this time around. Incoming governors should see the building of roads, provision of portable water, electricity, hospitals and schools as mere routine duties, just like somebody waking up from sleep to brush his mouth. From 2019, any governor that supplies fertilizers or tractors or houses to motivate the people and goes to buy newspaper pages to advertize as great achievements must be compelled to pay for the advertorial from his personal saving! The intellectual bankruptcy and mediocrity that classifies such routine efforts as “great achievements” to be applauded should be hastily consigned to our inglorious past.

Governors should be thinking of how to grow the economy of their respective domains by judiciously husbanding the natural and human resources available to create wealth and jobs. They should hasten to identify the mineral deposits in their domains, create enabling environments and the right policies, and engage the relevant agencies, corporations and investors in constructive and beneficial deliberations to see how the deposits and opportunities can be exploited to drive the economy of their states to create prosperity, mass employment and better life for the people.

We must do away with the old retrogressive style and adopt a more creative approach to governance for the good of all, not unnecessary overseas tours under the guise of shopping for foreign investors or signing Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) that has changed nothing. In Bauchi state, since 1999, not a single foreign investment was witnessed, but the governors had several overseas trips for that ‘purpose’.  

 By Sanusi Muhammad


Tuesday, 19 September 2017

Should the Guys Always Pay the Bills?

Ruth and James started dating way back in the University when they were both in their second year at the Ahmadu Bello University Zaria. They were so much in love that many of their course mates were envious of their relationship while many wished they had a relationship like theirs. They continued after graduating from the University and even promised to spend the rest of their lives together. James called Ruth on a particular weekend and told her to get ready; he was taking her out. She was very happy and she put on one of her finest gowns and waited for her man. He came and picked her and took her to one of the most beautiful restaurants. After they ate and the waiter brought the bill, James jokingly told Ruth to pay for it. But that didn’t sit well with her; she got angry and told him that she didn’t ask him to take her out. Rather he was the one that called and asked her out. “You are the one that is supposed to pay, because you are the man” said Ruth. At this point James got angry, paid the bill and walked out of the restaurant. None of them said a word to each other on the way home.
The question now is who is supposed to pay the bills? Is it the man or the woman? Tozali reporter was out to get the opinions of people on this interesting topic.  Read on and enjoy

Becky Samuel
On a first date, courtesy demands that the man should pay the bill. After the first few “Getting to Know You” dates, when the possibility of a longer relationship becomes apparent, the bill can be paid by either of the couple, or split the bill, except if the man insists on paying the bill. A woman can always offer to pay. The days of men paying for everything are gone. It’s not about gender or politics, it’s about appreciation, love language and understanding. To be clear here, there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying being treated to a good meal. Who does not like free things, especially with good company? One couple might adhere to traditional gender norms, while another might feel more comfortable dividing the bills based on income. But to crown it all, communication is the key; only then will the offer of giving someone a treat come across less as a power play and more as a gesture of goodwill. This is something not to be expected in every situation, but to be appreciated always. It’s a gesture of kindness if a woman offers to pay and likewise a gesture of kindness to counter-offer to pay half. What is more important is understanding and effective communication by both parties involved.

Jesse Pamson
I don’t think the guys should always pay the bills because two people are involved; so, it’s a two-way stuff, both the guy and the lady should pay the bills at any point in time. When going into a relationship there should be mutual understanding between the guy and the lady. So, if there is love, there must be sacrifices. Whoever is financially okay, whether it is the lady or the guy at the point, should just pay the bills. That is how you get your respect as a woman; don’t always expect to be receiving all the time. That is what a guy will call a liability. Ladies please note that we are in the 21st century where the guys are not just looking for a wife material, but are also looking for a wife who can support them financially. A woman who can foot some of the bills in the house and pick up some of her own personal financial responsibilities without depending on the man for almost everything she needs, that is the new definition of wife material.

Hannah Joseph
When a guy asks a lady on a date, then the answer to who pays the bill is simple. The guy should definitely pay the bills on the first date because he is just trying to win a girl's heart, and by so doing he is sending a clear message of his intensions. So, he should be a real man by taking care of the bills. As the relationship progresses and is turning into a more serious one, the lady can subsequently offer to pay the bill or pay part of the bill. Some guys may try to form I'm the man here so let me handle it; you as a woman can also prove to him that you can take care of the bill by insisting on paying. Don’t just sit and always be at the receiving end. The relationship should be defined and if it is growing into a committed one, then you both should sort your differences. There are guys who don’t want the ladies to pay the bills in this situation, both of you should communicate and understand each other.A woman can decide to handle some of the little bills in the house while he handles the huge bills. But where both of you are not financially strong, then the bills should be split.By so doing the relationship will last longer and there won’t be issues as time goes on. Most relationships suffer today because the man is not able to meet the woman’s financial needs. But if the bills are split and both parties know which bill to take care of in the house, it will go a long way in strengthening the relationship and making it last forever.

Danladi Ngadda
My answer is NO. Ladies should at least give some support once in a while. That should earn them some respect from the menfolk and give them some confidence that their women have their backs when they're down. Guys paying the bills always makes them feel on top, and that can bring disloyalty in a relationship. A man who always pays the bills feels within him, “after all I pay the bills”. So, he feels he can do what he feels like doing. Paying the bills makes the lady also have a sense of belonging and a kind of right that can’t be misused. Even if the man says she shouldn’t pay, she should at least show a sign that she wants to pay. Or she can decide to tell her man they should split the bill, that way she pays half and he pays the other half. The lady can also decide to surprise her man by paying the bills when her man is not around. He will eventually get to find out, and he will be happy about it. He might say ‘babe I told you not to bother about paying the bills”, but deep down within him, he knows that he is lucky to have such a woman who he can rely on when he is down, and who can also take care of the bills when he is not around, both within and outside the home.

By Mercy Kukah

Monday, 18 September 2017

Interracial Relationships

An Interracial couple is the term used to describe the relationship between two people from different racial groups. Just like every other couple, the two people of different races meet, fall in love and decide to spend the rest of their lives together. They then get married, have children and all of that happily ever after fantasy. But then, that is what everyone wants isn’t it?

So, what then makes interracial couples so different from everyone else?  Why do they have to suffer the stigma, being ostracised from the Society because of their skin colour?

True love has no boundaries. Love is an emotional bridge that brings people together across boundaries. When two people are passionate about each other; their race, or cultures becomes insignificant. Practically speaking, it is extremely selfish to want to determine to others who they choose to love; not to mention impossible. Because true love is selfless, sacrificing, gratifying, brings about unity and acceptance of all races, tribes, languages and religion, an Interracial relationships show is a perfect example what love really is. A society that does not unite, gives room for ignorance, illiteracy, failure and many other ills to thrive.

On a personally level, I truly believe those who pursue a relationship outside of their race, understand the concept of true love more than those who confine themselves to their kind.   The basis of any successful relationships happiness and understanding, therefore as long as you are happy you’re your partner, Skin colour should not matter. As long as you’re happy with that special someone, go right ahead and enjoy it to the fullest. Please be who you are, love who you choose to and to be with, smile at everyone, don’t miss out on all the millions of good people out there just because of different skin colour, upbringings and opinions.  Do not limit yourself or your happiness.

In the bid to make the society understand the beauty and uniqueness in interracial relationships and also how exciting it can be, I would like to highlight some of the following advantages derivable from it. You open yourself up to learning new stuff: In high school, I went over to a classmate’s house and she was a daughter of Mexican immigrants. First thing I noticed was that their house was starkly different from mine, and for lunch her mom made Mexican food. Ohh boy, I enjoyed all of that pork and cheese and ate so much till I thought cheese was going to grow on my hair! I believe that is what dating someone from a different background is like all the time. You learn from them and gain an in-depth view of the happiness and struggles that exist within that person’s culture, beyond the food of course but also their lifestyle, appearances and sometimes taste in fashion. “No you can’t ever fully understand someone else’s life, but you can be deeply immersed in it empathetically, emotionally, and culturally,” says Katie Kim, a senior at the University of California, Los Angeles. In all honesty your partner should be happy to teach you about what they experience within their own racial community. That will give you the opportunity to see the world in another pair of eyes and not you can’t put a price on that, it’s invaluable. Opportunity to escape your ideological viewpoint Every person has their own particular views and understanding in various topics during debates and in casual conversations.  So, imagine having the opportunity to see things in a totally different light; a perspective that is totally different from yours. Wait, that’s not the best part! Look at it this way; you have all these new approaches to ideas and fresh ways to interpret things. Your attitude and angle in life may change depending on the kind of person you are, every day will be like a new adventure. You start from taking part in activities you never thought was worth your time and sometimes unreasonable. Definitely I don’t believe you will change completely but you will begin to see what you couldn’t before. More like a beautiful learning experience every day.

You represent progress and maturity In Virginia on July 11, 1958, newlyweds Richard and Mildred were arrested for breaking a law which prohibited marriage between two different races. In 1955 Ruth Williams Khama and Sir Seretse Khama lived for eight years as exiles in England, until a personal cable was sent to the Queen in protest. Louis Gregory, an African American man married Louisa Mathews in New York 1912, becoming the first interracial Bahá’í couple. Louis Gregory became a strong advocate for racial unity in both the United States as well as within the Bahá’í community. Despite countless obstacles, the couples stayed together and stood for what they believed in. Interracial love has been around for a long time and has been fought for you. Don’t give society the power to take away what already belongs to you. Instead show all the progress we've made in civil rights. You get to make the world a better place. Being in an interracial relationship shows you’re living proof that love conquers all. Not only are you inspiring hope in others but also letting them know it’s okay to stand for what you believe in no matter what society says. Society cannot tell you how and who to love. I mean is there anything more beautiful in the world than people of different cultures coming together? Be brave enough to do what makes you happy against all odds. Society will be sad. But you have love.

So, you win!

By Aishat B.

How Western Makeup Trends Have Shaped the Nigerian Makeup Industry

Over the years, the Nigerian Makeup Industry has grown very lucrative and the demand for makeup products and services continue to rise significantly. From popular indigenous makeup product brands like Zaron and House of Tara to International brand names like Avon and L’Oreal, a visit to a cosmetic store in Nigeria reveals that there is no shortage of makeup brand options to choose from. There has also been a high surge of increase in the number of makeup schools all over the country owing to the growing demand for makeup services among women and the high rate of unemployment in the country. Young women (and in some cases men too) have resorted to studying the art of makeup and the number of young people applying to makeup schools thereby increasing significantly.

While this development in our makeup industry has undoubtedly contributed to improving the lives of many Nigerians through providing employment, there is no denying the disappointment in the fact that our Nigerian makeup industry has also allowed western concept of physical perfection to influence our cultural standards of beauty. By gradually succumbing to global influence, our makeup industry has contributed in encouraging Nigerians to shun natural looks and go in pursuit of physical appearances that adhere to the western concept of beauty.

Majority of women are now more in tune western ideals of physical outlook and our perception of basic facial attractiveness appear to have gradually changed over-time in favour of a lighter skin, pointier nose bridge, longer lashes, more sculptured face with higher cheek bones and lighter shaded lips, as opposed to our natural looks characterized by darker skin tones and more rounded facial features. As the global standard of beauty has dipped its claws in the Nigerian makeup industry, trying to look less Nigerian is now the order of the day, and Nigerian women now seek to use cosmetics as a method of alteration to achieve the now-in-trend standard of beauty.

Nigerian makeup companies are working tirelessly to meet up with this demand; manufacturing cosmetic and beauty products to help achieve the much-desired western beauty look; while our Nigerian makeup schools teach our makeup artists the art of using an array of products such as concealers, foundations, face-powders, highlighting kits, lip sticks, contouring kits, artificial lashes, mascaras, etc. to produce the illusion of a slimmer, pointier and more sculptured face and nose ridge that meets the western model of physical beauty.

Sources: The Alan Review, Independent, Observe Nigeria

By: Akaomachi B.

Stylish Ways to Rock the Bell Sleeves

Now as a fashion enthusiast it’s only right that you pay attention to the changing trends. One of the new trends in the fashion world is the bell sleeves style. The bell sleeve is a 70s fashion trend and it is one of the most feminine looks a woman can pull off because any flare cut gives women a very soft look. This cut can be translated perfectly into a gorgeous style once you have the right fabric. With the re-surface of bell sleeves, it is gradually taking over the spot of the viral off-the-shoulder trend. And what’s even more interesting is how the designers and fashionistas are pushing the boundaries with their designs.

The bell sleeves are really stylish and can be sewn using any material of your choice. Bell sleeves tops and dresses make a great style statement, for women who are looking for distinctiveness. Whatever you call them, bell sleeves, flare sleeves or butterfly sleeves; it doesn’t really matter. What matters is they look great and will make you look 10 times more dashing. Everyone is rocking the bell sleeve trend, especially the dresses. It’s dramatic and attracts attention.

So, what are you waiting for? Join the trendsetters, wear bell sleeves in any material of your choice. Don’t forget to style and stack your hands with simple accessories and also with a flawless makeup that will turn heads. Take your fashion to the next level. ROCK THE BELL SLEEVES LADIES!!!

By: Pupwaya Timothy Dibal 

Monday, 11 September 2017

Hand Bangles: Timeless Fashion Piece

Bangles are metal, plastic, or wooden bracelets that are worn around the arm, wrist, or ankle. They are worn as beauty accessories by women all over the world. Bangles are especially popular with Indian and Pakistani women; but today women globally have popularized bangles as a key fashion piece that they can’t do without. Bangles can be made of other materials such as glass, silver, diamond, gold etc.  They are available in a variety of colours and shapes.

Bangles are intricately and aesthetically designed, and whether you need a simple bangle or a dramatic one, you will find them. Most women tend to be very particular about the type of jewelry they wear. That is why there are varieties of designs and collections to suit all tastes and occasions. Whether you are wearing an ethnic outfit, or jeans with a top, simple matching bangles can make all the difference. When it comes to bangles, women prefer gold ones, especially if they are adorned with precious stones. The gold bangles are designed variously to suit ethnic and western styles.

Complement any outfit you choose to wear with the impressive range of hand bangles. Add that beauty touch to your wrist with colourful bangles and designs, ranging from simple bands for everyday use, to elaborate and chunky designs. Don’t be scared to go for the bold and elaborate designs. You can set the trends and make eyes roll wherever you go.

Check out these ladies wearing different designs and colours of bangles and be guided in your choice.

By: Pupwaya Timothy Dibal 

The Crime We Are All Guilty Of: Child Abuse

Safety and security don’t just happen; they are the result of collective consensus and public investment. We owe our children, the most vulnerable citizens of our society, a life free of violence and fear” – Nelson Mandela

Many times, the first thought we have at the mention of the term ‘child abuse’ is physical maltreatment and violence against children; and with good reason too. A 10-year-old girl, (name withheld) was found chained to a window’s burglary proof in an uncompleted building by her aunt, for allegedly stealing four thousand naira. The little girl was said to have been rescued by policemen in Ogun State after two days of starvation! Another 9-year-old boy, also in Ogun state, was also chained and starved for a couple of days, by his father, a pastor, who claimed the boy was possessed by demons. There is hardly an adult in Nigeria today, who doesn’t have a story to tell about how he or she was severely “disciplined” by the parents as a child, and there is always a new story in the newspapers about a child who was either beaten to an inch of his/her life, molested, burnt with a pressing iron, or some other form of savagery. But the abuse of children goes beyond just physical violence. There are other forms of child abuse that are just as heinous but we never see them in the news, which makes them even more dangerous. Emotional abuse and child neglect: despite seeming insignificant in comparison with physical or sexual abuse, are just as serious and are even more common. These forms of abuse may not leave scars we can see, but the damage to the child is just as real. Emotional abuse includes any acts of verbal assault, constant criticism, intimidation, constant shaming and humiliation, confinement, isolation, and any other maltreatment which may diminish the sense of dignity and self-worth of the child. And child neglect happens when a child does not get the shelter, schooling, clothing, medical care, or protection he or she needs.

Some people believe that emotional abuse and child neglect are not abuses at all because there is no physical harm done. But this is not true. Emotional abuse and neglect hurt children in many ways. The effects are internal and long-term, leading to life-long mental health problems. Emotional abuse could result in depression, difficulties in socialisation, learning problems, perpetual fear or anger, and sometimes death.

Sadly, the majority of children who suffer abuse of any form do not tell anyone what has happened to them and the perpetrators go scot-free. According to the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), fewer than 5% of abused children receive the help they need to recover. In fact, the UNICEF’s state of the world’s child report indicates that Nigeria is one of the worst places for a child to grow up. According to the report, six out of 10 children in Nigeria experience emotional, physical, or sexual abuse before the age of 18! This statistics is very heart-breaking and it is time for every Nigerian to work towards ensuring that our children are safe from, not only violence and molestation, but also harassment, neglect and emotional harm. Every child is important. He or she doesn’t have to be yours to be loved. Remember that it takes a village to raise a child; sharing responsibility for the care and protection of children helps to ensure that all children are allowed to reach their full potential as human beings.

Also keep in mind that child abuse does not occur only within the family or at home, but also in schools, religious settings, and other social environments and communities the child interacts with. To protect your child/ward from child abuse, Healthwise Staff from advice that you take the following precautions:

Listen to your child. Let him or her know it is safe to talk about anything with you
Get to know your child’s friends and their families

Screen all caregivers such as your housekeepers and day-care centres. Find out what they know about child health, child development, and child care.

Teach your child the difference between “good touches” and “bad touches”

Take a break when you feel overwhelmed and stressed-out. Ask a family member or very trusted friend to help out when you feel the work has become too much for you to handle alone.

Get help if you have ever been a victim of abuse because having a history of abuse increases your chances of becoming an abuser.

To help and protect other children from child abuse and neglect:

Learn to recognise the signs of abuse and neglect. For example, a child may not grow as expected, may be dirty or unhealthy, or may seem fearful, anxious or depressed

Know the names of your neighbours and their children. Offer to help a new parent. Child abuse becomes less likely if parents and caregivers feel supported.

If you see abuse or neglect happening, speak up. A child’s life may depend on it.

Most abused children are not able to help themselves. Children deserve nothing less than our constant focus on their safety, and it is our duty to protect them from mental, physical, sexual and emotional abuse and neglect, even if their parents or guardians are unwilling to do so. If you see, or have any reason to suspect a child is experiencing harm, or is in danger of any form of child abuse, including neglect, sexual abuse, child battering, child trafficking, etc. it is important to take action; report to the police, government organisations and Non-government organisations that work to eliminate cruelty children. If you see an act of abuse and ignore it, then you are no better than the abuser, and are just as guilty. Reporting child abuse is the responsibility of everyone. Remember that by reporting your suspicions, you may prevent a child from being seriously hurt or even killed, and from having lifelong emotional problems.

By Akaomachi B